Which am I?
Type 5 or Type 9?
The Observer vs the Mediator
Fives and Nines are both quiet, calm and happy to keep a low profile, so they're easy to mix up. Both can pull back when life asks too much of them. But Fives pull back to think, while Nines pull back to keep the peace and switch off.
How they're alike
- Calm and low-key, rarely the loudest in the room
- Pull back when people ask too much
- Steady when others are panicking
How to tell them apart
Head centre
Type 5, The Observer
- What they're after
- To understand things, with the space to handle life their own way.
- What they're avoiding
- Being drained, or caught without what they need to cope.
You might be a Five if…
- when you withdraw, your mind is busy working something out.
- you'll happily disagree if the facts are on your side.
- you guard your time closely and don't like surprise visits.
- you dig deep into one subject until you really know it.
Gut centre
Type 9, The Mediator
- What they're after
- To keep life calm and settled, inside and out.
- What they're avoiding
- Arguments and changes that shake things up.
You might be a Nine if…
- when you withdraw, your mind goes quiet and you drift.
- you'll usually go along with others rather than argue.
- you're easy to drop in on and find it hard to say no.
- you take things as they come, and can put off what matters to you.
If you see yourself in both, read the Five and Nine pages and go with the motives that feel truer.